Time and time again, we face the internal battle of approaching the situation of confronting loved ones. Friends, significant others or family members tend to be the hardest conversations to have in these instances.
Difficult conversations can be very nerve racking for some and can often lead to suppression of issues instead. Depending on the problem at hand, it is important to consider what you want to say. This way you can avoid “kitchen-sinking” the recipient with all pent-up aggression that is often out of context
Conversations involving confrontation are filled with deep emotion that heavily affects how we talk through the issue. If you are one that tends to be fearful or easily caught up in the moment with emotions, definitely give yourself time to make sure you can plan what you truly want to get out of the recipient.
Confidence in your position is key. Stand firm behind what you feel you need without using aggressive language that can divert from the overall point. Don’t approach the conversation with intentions of attacking the other person; avoid using sentences such as: “You only care about yourself,” be assertive and speak from your point of view. Instead, say: “I feel that you are not respecting me the way I deserve to be.”
Additionally, be prepared to listen in return. Thinking about the next sentence you can come back with, rather than understanding their position will not lead to a resolution. Allow time for your brain to fully process the conversation before responding.
Now, of course some confrontational conversations are not so easy to have, because the issue resulted in consequences, for example: trust issues. For larger scale issues make sure you are calm and composed as best you can. Being fearful of having challenging conversations is completely normal.
Don’t attempt to hash it out in public, make sure you are in a space where you can constructively talk through everything. Everyone handles confrontation differently, so you should not lead with expectations.
Some conversations are better handled with a third-party present to guide the conversation. If you feel more comfortable handling the matter with an outside perspective, look into resources around you.
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